If You Can Count Them on One Hand

Girls, Firends, Buddy, Three, Dresses

The dawn of Facebook was one of the worst vehicles to ingratiate itself upon our lives. IT (information technology) efficiently took everyone’s lives and smashed all of us all together into a digital worldwide high school, if not lesser. Our lives have been turned into”a social experiment” that seeks to promote a constant reinforcement of validation, overstated promotion of our faulty ideas and irrational ideas, and perpetually masturbates some kind of tacit confirmation that we”matter.”

Nowadays, a”friend” is best described as a gathering of names or a gaggle of faces or other self-identifying images that corresponds to a human being. Facebook’s method of acquiring and adding”friends,” was the single most incredible accomplishment of entrepreneurial and mental proportions; encourage individuals to virally promote themselves, cross-connect with”like-minded folks” that politically charge up the armies with”group think mentality,” link up with people they know and call them,”friends,” and then, use that information to market a truckload of useless nonsense and unnecessary commodities to these people through the social medium. Brilliant.

Along with supporting”group think” and underscoring an idea that anyone with a Facebook page and Twitter handle is now some type of political pro, we further teach people that a volume of people known as,”friends,” is some type of currency. The acquisition of”friends” is now viewed by some as an instrument of stated”social money,” used to suggest some sort of personal value. (Rather strange to imply that you’re”significant” by the amount of”friends” who”like” you? Don’t you think?) Facebook has misappropriated the usage, weight,  How to keep squirrels away and significance of the word”friend,” and your profile allows other people to associate your volume of friends as a position of personal excellence, influence, and inferred”significance” Yuk! Gross! Disgusting!

It would seem that some Facebook users incorporate anyone and everyone to their”friends list” in order to communicate to others,”Wow! Look at how many people’like’ me. Look how much better I am than you. Look at all of my’fans.'” It is bad enough that the human race marvels at its own existence and accomplishments, never mind the fact that we refer to ourselves as”intelligent life.” As compared to what – A pig? Social media is now an ever-evolving force in a world that reinforces a dangerous ideology of self-importance. The current use of the word”friend” is now a far-reaching concept that divorces itself from the familiarity and significance of someone whom you trust, respect, and invest time in exchange for a sense that suggests personal value.

For these reasons, narcissists love Facebook. It’s the easiest and most obvious way to celebrate yourself and shore up an already shaky self-confidence. For people of this kind, social media is the easiest pathway to observe one’s own personal existence, and of course, a very”captive” audience to share everything from this morning’s breakfast picture, a veiny biceps, and each move in NYC last week. If you are really lucky, the narcissist will shove pictures of his or her adorable children and their related microscopic movements in mind and drown you in a disgusting world of personal opinion pieces.

Without spending eight pages on the subject, I think I will summarize my point quite succinctly: the quantity of people on your Facebook page does not identify how many”true” friends you have. This stage is most obviously demonstrated in this way: how a lot of those”friends” are going to come running to help you in case you call at 2am, no questions asked? I am only guessing, but I’d say, few.

Consequently, the only people you should count as”buddies” are those people you can rely on morning, noon, night and any hour of the day. True friends are your”rock.” They’re the mortar and foundation of your life’s environment, the individuals who think of you once you’re up, down and all points in between, and the folks whom you never want qualify yourself, justify your actions, explain your behaviour or validate your presence.

They know who and what you are, know how and why you are, and love you for better, worse, richer, poorer and always stand with you, whether the battle is not!

To pursue a more joyful quality of life, you should:

• Downsize! Choose the people whom you call”friends” and categorize the people you acquaint. Some feel the need to stockpile people they call”friends.” Leave high school behaviors to individuals less than 18 years old. Life isn’t a popularity contest. Less is more!

• Qualify! Who is the type of person you want to call your”friend?” Is this person someone who carries him/herself with value for others? Is encouraged by the type acts s/he performs for others? Is considerate of others’ feelings prior to talking or taking action? If a person has less than spectacular conduct, you may want to evaluate if you would like to be considered guilty by association.

They are the types of folks that are the most dependable and will be the”Special Forces Unit” of your friends-battalion.